by Robyn Jones – B.Sc. (Psych), Goonellabah, Australia
Morning sickness affects a large majority of women when they are pregnant. It can easily be said that it is the number one source of discomfort during pregnancy and for good reason. The nausea and vomiting that can occur with morning sickness can be intense. It can interfere with your day-to-day activities, affect your sleep, mean a trip to the hospital (or many!), as well as the untold impact it has on your relationships… and your body! Morning sickness can also affect your mental health.
What some women go through with morning sickness can lead to desperately trying all sorts of ‘cures’ to make it go away, or to just get a little reprieve from the relentless onslaught that can be experienced in the case of severe morning sickness or hyperemesis gravidarum. Even those who experience morning sickness on a mild scale can also desperately seek to make it go away.
So what is it that we are looking to make go away?
Obviously the nausea and vomiting are top of the list… but is there more to it than that?
What if having morning sickness is our body’s way of communicating with us a very important message that makes us feel uncomfortable? The message may be to slow down, or in fact come to a complete stop, so we can take a moment to feel how we have been living as a woman.
Feeling how we have been living as a woman can be uncomfortable and challenging in many ways, because as women instead of living honoring our innate stillness and naturally delicate ways, we have gravitated towards being busy and constantly in motion, tough, overly independent, and stoic.
In light of this, is it not surprising that so many women experience morning sickness while pregnant? Because pregnancy is a time where we get to feel ourselves for the sensitive, precious and delicate beings we are naturally. Being pregnant brings with it an incredible offering of stillness that is there to support us to come back to our natural womanly qualities. And morning sickness plays a big part in supporting us to drop all our defenses and clear out the ways we have been living that get in the way of us allowing ourselves to feel vulnerable and fragile.
As a pregnant woman, have you ever had that experience when you are nauseous and you literally can’t move because it makes the room spin? This is one very direct way for our body to communicate that is it time to get into our stillness! But what if we lived this way – with a greater quality of stillness and presence with ourselves – without the body forcing it upon us? Could this be the true anti-nausea medication we are all looking for?
This is what worked for me when nothing else did. It is a way of treating the underlying cause of morning sickness rather than just the symptoms. It goes to the root cause of it all and with my willingness to explore this further I was able to accept myself more deeply for the gloriously delicate woman I am naturally.
The more I accepted this part of me the less morning sickness I had, until finally it was gone, and I was left with a renewed knowing of myself as a woman. I went from feeling consistently anxious, overly hard, strict and rigid in how I wanted things to be, and controlling… to a woman who is delicate, compassionate, understanding, wise, joyful, light and playful. All the qualities I remember as a child but left behind so many years ago to fit in and not ruffle anyone’s feathers.
There is a deep wisdom that lives within each of us and to re-connect to this is a blessing for us and everyone else, as we stop the madness the world asks us to live in and instead we get to choose the quality we live in… stillness, delicateness, beauty, grace, joy, harmony, playfulness.
Being pregnant is a wonderful opportunity to explore how you are living as a woman. Embrace the messages your body is communicating with you through morning sickness and allow yourself to return to the woman you naturally are within.
Some resources that can support with this are:
What has your body been saying to you lately? Please share in the comments below.
Original article published on the Crowd Ink website on November 11, 2015.